You’ve probably met people who hold to be perfect in everything. They are diligent at work, keep your appearance and even when having sex, if they have an exam for the title “sex therapist.” In an effort to get “excellent” in bed, they are deprived of the opportunity to experience the pleasure of intimate contact.
Here’s an example: there are women who put all their efforts into a single purpose – to look like a “sex bomb” in bed to perform flawlessly all fads partner, even if they are not temper these things.
They can not afford the desire to come upon them in the wrong place and time. Because first you have to take a shower, be smeared with cleansing milk to put beautiful lingerie. And even if it never occurred to them passes that excited man does not see what she was wearing his partner, and how to quickly and easily take it off. Nor think that the shower will wash and pheromones that caused the excitement of the man. However think of the words of an older colleague that today women do not smell of… sex.
“Perfect” women are afraid to have sex on the light, because I always think that their body is not ideal. Or you’ll see a small pimple on their forehead. Well-known cold is that men love with their eyes – dark enemy of excitement. Slightly mysterious eclipse – yes, but darkness – in any case!
Men perfectionists, with the pre mentally prepare for intimate meetings. Specifically choose the time and place for them. There is nothing wrong as long as it is not an end in itself. Candles, wine and soft music conducive to wonderful erotic experience. Recently, however, experts in the field have launched the philosophy that the greatest penetration of soul and body happens when we are not prepared for it. In anticipation of lazy, sad, angry and even more fucking sex, we can get alien delight. Statistics show that women have more unwanted sex than men. But five times this sex remain fascinated by the unexpected adventure in bed. The author of the book “Will you stay in love with me tomorrow?” Adrian Bargs swears that it is not desirable to be possessed of exceptional and high emotions to mushnem between the sheets. According to him, even if at the beginning of “sessions” do not feel in the mood, you still have to get to the end. Because halves remain satisfied and our relations with them are concreted.
If bachelors, men constantly change their partners, if they are married, usually rarely have sex. In both cases – to avoid the risk to expose in sex. He, sex is like “car driving” – to be a professional, you need to drive almost continuously. One study shows that the long and happy relationships are those in which sex is idolize. To be happy, couples just need to do it constantly.
Sexologists give a few tips to men and women who have set themselves the goal to be perfect in the bedroom.
Not always act ends with orgasm.
Sexual “excellent” intimate contact necessarily want to end with an orgasm for their partner and themselves. If you have failed to reach the top, they begin to worry. Or insist on “run” simultaneously, without thinking that if you focus on its own endpoint separately, will be able to indulge in pleasure all the way, as do the “shift.”
They are too pretentious to the person next to them – can be split with him just because he has justified their expectations for the ideal mate. And are firmly confident that Low quality sex will drag a bunch of trouble – from mental disorders to other diseases.
You do not have to prove how much you wanted through sex with multiple partners.
“The excellent” bed is usually recognized only the traditional form of intercourse – to other forms of sexual gratification resorting too often, without any desire only to try a new way. This often leads to the opposite effect as it raises concerns for such there is no reason (remember the joke about a worker who fell from a ladder and stated that became 300% impotent: hit in the groin, sprained his fingers and bit his tongue; -§))).
Not serve schemes, try a new style in bed.
In fact, perfectionists can have sex on the counter, but their inherent seriousness, businesslike and diligence, just because you do not know sex as an intimate play both. Cheat for unloading and mostly to prove that they are very desirable.
Lack of spontaneity is the biggest problem for the “best performers”. Such lovers will never do a striptease for your partner. Do not wait for their fantasy sex. In an effort to provide second to none, very rarely gets really so.
Sexologists of them:
Problem of perfectionists is their inability to accept what they are. With all their weaknesses and peculiarities. This occurs particularly in intimate contact, because they reveal the true nature of man. Experts believe that if called. “Excellent” solve their problems in life, sex for them will not work and trial and unforgettable pleasure. Under the duvet all are equal. Sex makes people like! Avoid pettiness. Picnic in the forest in a cable car to the balcony geraniums, sex helps!
Materials used are of the newspaper “Trud” newspaper “Standard” and the Internet